A lot of our friends have already moved. Now, in just a few weeks, our best friends are moving away. 2012 seems to be the year of big changes. The dynamic of the groups I have been a part of here are shifting. There is a sense of coming and going in the air.
I don’t like change. Just a few weeks ago my friend said: “Oh, so you’re actually really conservative!” and for my own personal life, that is completely true. I’m not really too attached to geographic locations- moving isn’t very difficult for me. However, I have a very hard time dealing with people leaving my life. If it were up to me, I would keep all the people I have loved throughout my life somehow close to me.
This new era of change is going to be hard for me. I have been trying desperately to deny it, but it is coming and there is nothing I can do to stop it. Honestly, we’ve had it good the last 2 ½ years- so many great friends for my children to grow up with and so many wonderful mothers to help me become a better mum myself.
However, the hardest will be seeing my daughter be sad. I’m sure a lot of people don’t think that children as young as R are capable of forming close relationships with their friends. R really does have a best friend and it is going to be heartbreaking to try explaining the separation to her. I have already started mentioning her friend’s impending move in an attempt to prepare her, but I don’t think she will really understand until her friend is gone.
I know that this is life and I shouldn’t be so sensitive. I know that I take things to heart a lot more than I should. I can’t help it. I hate being separated from people I love and I wish I could altogether avoid it. It’s impossible, of course.
If you have any advice on how to make this easier on my daughter (she is almost three), please share!
When my girls were 4, 5 and 6 my 3 best friends all moved within the same yr..they became my best friends b/c our kids played together soo much...that was a terrible time for all of us...I said I would never make a friend who didn't have a family business here! well they moved and left and we all adjusted here and made new friends...that was a hard time for all of us!
ReplyDeleteYou will get through it and make new friends!