Thursday, January 26, 2012

Changes Are Coming

A lot of our friends have already moved. Now, in just a few weeks, our best friends are moving away. 2012 seems to be the year of big changes. The dynamic of the groups I have been a part of here are shifting. There is a sense of coming and going in the air.
I don’t like change. Just a few weeks ago my friend said: “Oh, so you’re actually really conservative!” and for my own personal life, that is completely true. I’m not really too attached to geographic locations- moving isn’t very difficult for me. However, I have a very hard time dealing with people leaving my life. If it were up to me, I would keep all the people I have loved throughout my life somehow close to me.
This new era of change is going to be hard for me. I have been trying desperately to deny it, but it is coming and there is nothing I can do to stop it. Honestly, we’ve had it good the last 2 ½ years- so many great friends for my children to grow up with and so many wonderful mothers to help me become a better mum myself.
However, the hardest will be seeing my daughter be sad. I’m sure a lot of people don’t think that children as young as R are capable of forming close relationships with their friends. R really does have a best friend and it is going to be heartbreaking to try explaining the separation to her. I have already started mentioning her friend’s impending move in an attempt to prepare her, but I don’t think she will really understand until her friend is gone.
I know that this is life and I shouldn’t be so sensitive. I know that I take things to heart a lot more than I should. I can’t help it. I hate being separated from people I love and I wish I could altogether avoid it. It’s impossible, of course.
If you have any advice on how to make this easier on my daughter (she is almost three), please share!

1 comment:

  1. When my girls were 4, 5 and 6 my 3 best friends all moved within the same yr..they became my best friends b/c our kids played together soo much...that was a terrible time for all of us...I said I would never make a friend who didn't have a family business here! well they moved and left and we all adjusted here and made new friends...that was a hard time for all of us!
    You will get through it and make new friends!