It’s very common for us parents to focus all our time and energy on our children. It is also common for us to spend all of our money on them. I know plenty of ladies who often buy clothes, toys, and goodies for their kids, while they are wearing the same clothes they’ve had for many years (yes, I am partly referring to myself…)
An idea I got from my parents is to give yourself and your spouse an allowance. If you give yourself some pocket money every week or every month you will be sure to at least buy a little something for yourself on a regular basis.
No matter what your budget is, you should be able to spare maybe $5 or $10 per week, which would amount to between $20 and $50 per month. If you have a larger budget, you can raise your allowance to whatever amount you feel is appropriate.
What to do with this extra cash? Something only for yourself! It has to be something that is going to make you feel better about yourself and will make you happy, even if only for a little while. You may not spend it on gifts for the kids or your partner- this is forbidden because it defeats the purpose!
Don’t know what you could do with your money? Here are some suggestions: Buy a book, magazine, DVD, CD, clothes, a purse, jewelry, shoes (!!!), etc. Or treat yourself to a manicure, pedicure, massage, haircut, visit to the chiropractor, etc. Take a friend out and have a few drinks. Buy a nice bottle of wine and some chocolates. Start taking lessons in something you’ve always wanted to learn. The possibilities are endless!
If you have your heart set on something a little pricier, save up for it! The more fabulous the item on your wish list, the longer it may take you to get it, but it will be well worth it.
You’re probably thinking that I am promoting consumerism and material happiness. That is actually not my point at all. I just think that spending money on yourself on a regular basis will make you a happier and more content person. It will raise your sense of self-worth and make you feel better about who you are.
So, this weekend, take your allowance and treat yourself to something nice! It will definitely help you become a more fabulous you.