Thursday, May 10, 2012

Andy's Corner: Is It All in Vain?

My husband is not a man who is fond of communication. So I was really surprised when he sent me a Word document and told me that he had a guest post for my blog! My husband is an amazing man and I am very lucky to have him- we will be celebrating our fifth wedding anniversary tomorrow. Please leave a comment and let him know what you think.

I am not a writer, this will become more obvious as you continue to read, but something happened the other day that made me question something and I needed to write about it in order to get it off of my chest. Before I get into the event that encouraged me to write this let me tell you a little bit about myself. I joined the Army when I was 17 and I am due to retire after 20 years of service this September. The job that I performed in the Army is that of an Infantryman. I have served in every leadership position from Infantry Team Leader up to Company First Sergeant. In case you do not know, the Infantry is an all-male force, most of whom are very conservative people. I am not one of those conservative people, not even close. I guess you could say I am an outlier, an observation that is numerically distant from the rest of the data.

 When the repeal of Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell was being debated I supported it because I feel that it is no one’s business what anyone does in their own bedroom. I believe in God, but I do not agree with organized religion, the reason why will become clear as you continue reading. I have served in a combat zone and I have had a Soldier that was under my charge not return home with the rest of us. That Soldier was truly one of the greatest people I have ever had the pleasure of knowing. He was not even supposed to be in the Army when he was killed. He was a stop-loss Soldier, basically someone who was not allowed to leave the Army because the unit he was in was supposed to deploy. When he died he left behind a three year old son whom he loved dearly. I tell you about him because of something that happened Tuesday May 8th, 2012 and it makes me wonder: Did he die in vain? It is the passing of Amendment One to the Constitution of the state of North Carolina, the state where I grew up. People ask me why I do not want to live in the south when I retire, even though I grew up there, this is one of the major reasons. Not the Amendment itself, but the mentality that it is ok for me to deny other people their rights because my religion says so.

I have always been a very tolerant person and not super conservative like some members of my family. I believe that every American, regardless of sex, age, skin color, height, weight, or sexual orientation, should have the same rights. Obviously the people of North Carolina do not agree with my point of view, which is fine. I think that the world would be a very boring place if everyone thought the same way, but when a group of people force their religious beliefs on every member of a state I just cannot understand it. The Declaration of Independence of the United States of America states “…that all men are created equal, that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable Rights, that among these are Life, Liberty and the pursuit of Happiness.” Does this new amendment not do the exact opposite of this oft quoted line of the Declaration of Independence? Did my Soldier die so that one group of people could force their religious beliefs on another group of people that denies them their unalienable rights? I think that he did not die so that this could happen. I think that as long as there are people out there who will fight for everyone’s rights then he did not die in vain. The United States prides itself on having a separation of church and state; this is obviously not the case. I hope that one day every American will have the same rights. I am sure that it will happen one day. When? I do not know. But I know that as long as people are still fighting for equal rights for everyone then my Soldier, and every other Soldier who paid the ultimate sacrifice for their country, did not die in vain.


  1. I'm sorry but this is all wrong. I believe he is saying that homosexuality is just fine and that gay marriage is fine because we ought to have that right but this is wrong. Why? Because God says so and even without this its obvious that two men or two women were never made to procreate thus nature teaches that it is wrong and will tare down the family unit and without the family unit we have nothing. that is just as wrong as saying we should have the right to kill anyone for any reason. We have to draw lines or there will be no freedom just caos.

    1. First of all, 'God' never said so- the Bible may define marriage a certain way, but those words were written by man. In the Bible, marriage is actually defined as being between a man and multiple women. Would that be ok to do now? As far as I know, that's against the law...
      Secondly, nobody is demanding that same sex marriages be accepted within the religious communities. All they want is equality before the law, which they should have. How can two people loving each other tear down anything? That is just untrue.

    2. As a married Christian woman, I see so many fallacies with your argument. The first is that, should a man and woman who cannot have children be married? They cannot procreate. The second is that you are speaking of laws from Leviticus. They also say eating shrimp is an abomination, as well as wearing blended fabrics. Take it all or leave it all. Thirdly, homosexuals being allowed to marry does not tear down any family. I have never met anyone who expressed that the only reason they are not gay is because they couldn't get married if they were. What would Jesus say, if he were here?

  2. What a wonderful post. Nice job Andy! I, too, was very upset when I heard that. And I was glad that I live in Canada, even though we ain't perfect either. Stick to your beliefs. I still have hope that the world will catch up.

  3. Wonderful Job Andy!!!! I was just as shocked that this got passed in North Carolina and I am very disappointed!!! I feel just the same way and it should not be any bodies right to tell me who I want to spend the rest of my life!!! To many people butt into other peoples lives trying to say how they live their life is wrong but its not their place to judge or push their views on.. the only judgement that matters is when we meet our creator!!!!

  4. I have been praying about this and talking to my mama, and I have come yet to come to a conclusion but I know that if Jesus was here, he would not be against homosexual people. He said there are two commandments, love God and love your neighbor as yourself.

    I cannot come up with a reason why homosexuals shouldn't marry yet.